Arrived at after much heartache and inward looking!
Life is FOR GIVING; not FOR GETTING
so GIVE what you can
FORGIVE everyone
...ok I know this one isnt easy. I have difficulty with it. But here's my thinking behind it: there are at least TWO people in any relationship. So there are TWO People's TRUTHS involved. Think about it: You make your decision based on your TRUTH as you see it. So why should the other person be any different? Their truth is just different to your truth. But who is right? You BOTH ARE. Why..because each of you made your decision based on YOUR TRUTH at the time!
Don't make judgements
... why?..again this one is not easy!.... because again.. you don't know what is involved in the other person's life.
Here's what I have found in my life... when I judge others.. the thing I have judged them for invariably happens to me. Then I get to see the truth that THEY went on!(yeh.. I have judged others for getting divorced... then it happened to me. I view it very differently now! That is just one instance!)
Make time for yourself
This one is really really important I think. I didn't do this for years and I ended up by blaming others for what I wasn't doing. I blamed others when I didn't go somewhere because they didn't want to go; or didn't do something because they didn't want to do it. The truth was I COULD have done it anyway. Their decision was NOT to do it, but it didn't have to be MINE. So I blamed everyone but myself. I saw myself as a VICTIM...but in reality I wasn't. I was thinking that THINGS HAPPENED TO ME when in fact I had been CHOOSING them that way. I COULD have altered what I did but I didn't. I just blamed others (in my mind anyway, even if not out loud!)
So give yourself time to GO WITHIN or you will indeed GO WITHOUT!
I didn't give myself time to do this as often as I should. There wasn't TIME in my busy schedule. Well guess what happened. EVERYONE suffered, not just me, because I hadn't found what it was I NEEDED deep down. I wasn't being true to my inner self. I wasn't nourishing ME. I wasn't doing what truely made me happy. I was neglecting me. In neglecting ME I ended up making everyone else suffer. I got fed up with life, with my outcomes; I was lonely; I didn't like me; I didn't KNOW me! I was a mum, a wife, a daughter, but I had lost a lot of ME. I had to GO WITHIN to find me again and now because I go WITHIN I am happier for it. I don't go WITHOUT so often!